A clique can make a child feel isolated, or that something is wrong with them. The results can vary in severity, based on how the clique interacts with other children. A clique may not only involve the most popular children, but can be formed by any small group that feels they share certain similarities, such as nerds or loners.
StateImpact suggests that a child’s educational performance can diminish in school whenever they feel left out or unimportant. In many cases, the child experiences feelings of humiliation in front of a clique that is being mean or disrespectful. This could cause the child to replay the events while in the classroom over and over again, making it difficult to pay attention to the teacher. Some children may experience unnecessary amounts of worrying about looking like an outcast if they can’t find someone to sit with at lunch or on the bus.
Helping a Child Deal with the Negative Experiences of Rejection
According to a news article by Today, many parents realize that rejection is just a part of life; however, they are unaware how to help their child cope with issues that often stem out of mistreatment from a clique, such as rejection. Parents must learn how to walk the fine line between not replaying their own negative memories they experienced in school and still keeping their cool in front of their children. Playing a supportive role involves focusing solely on your child and leaving your own emotions out of the equation.
Facing Rejection from a Peer Group
Children experience rejection by a peer group for any number of reasons, including their appearance, cultural background, ethnic race or personality. Parents should be aware that their child might be experiencing a form of rejection at school if their behavior suddenly shifts, if they become unusually isolated, if they become withdrawn or overly sensitive, or if they suddenly try to make excuses to avoid going to school. If your child opens up to you about feeling rejected or bullied at school, it may be helpful if you can point out a similar experience you went through at school if it offers a useful suggestion to your child about how to cope with their experience.
Cliquish Behavior May Lead to Bullying
According to this infographic, children who are accepted into a clique may feel more of a sense of value or importance than others. While it can seem positive to be involved in a clique, often it can affect the personalities of those who are involved. It could cause the members to become more abrasive in nature and begin to bully others who are not a part of a clique.
Parents who regularly communicate with their children about what’s going on in their life at school may be able to help their kids cope with the effects of bullying. Since being bullied can make a child feel isolated, parents can combat that affect by spending quality time with their children each night.